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Five behaviours you can steal from difficult people

I’m using the term ‘difficult’ here but it’s easily interchangeable with ‘assertive’, ‘confident’ or ‘bold’.  It is merely our own perception that leads us to choose whether someone is ‘difficult’ or not. Here are some behaviours to that come naturally to these people and how they can be useful for the rest of us.

1.  They won’t compromise their beliefs

When these people believe in something there’s no changing their minds or convincing them of another way. They will staunchly stand by their decisions or point of view in the face of any argument – logical, factual or otherwise. Although this can be extremely frustrating for others,  standing by your convictions is an empowering experience, especially when it’s one of your core values.

2.  They expect others will comply with their requests/demands

Difficult people often simply expect that others will acquiesce or follow their directions. Believing things will go according to plan lends itself to becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy. Imagine if you woke up tomorrow and imagined how perfectly the day could go for you. Do you think you’d have a good day with more positive outcomes? Try this experiment for yourself.

3.  They believe in themselves

Believing in oneself is something that a lot of us can struggle with at some time in our lives. We could all benefit from less self-doubt and more confidence.

4.  They expect people to take responsibility

With expectations comes the perceived responsibility to live up to them. A difficult person won’t let you pass the buck or make excuses. They don’t want to hear about why something can’t happen or why you’re having a bad day. Sometimes difficult people provide the best ‘kick in the butt’ we need to take action.

5.  They push you to leave your comfort zone

It’s natural for us as human beings to settle into a routine, to seek the easy way and to repeat what we have mastered but there’s a danger in complacency. Difficult people can often draw you into their way of thinking or their way of achieving a goal and expect you to perform. Although it’s great to work to your strengths, going outside your comfort zone and gaining exposure to new perspectives often brings an opportunity to learn, and innovation is born from novelty.

These behaviours are generally associated with the D profile in the Extended DISC behavioural profiling model. They are the future thinkers and drivers of change. As part of a team, they will keep the focus on the end goal and demand action.

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